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Penis, Vagina & Anus Aren’t Bad Words

It can be an awkward conversation for parents, but using the anatomical terms for body parts at a young age can help protect your kids against predators who are masters of manipulation.

In fact, I’ll stand up to anyone & state, it’s the most important thing to teach your kids, in combination with body boundaries. It’s your kids best defence to fend off a possible predator when you are not with your kids.

It also helps your kids build a positive body image & opens the door for an honest, open dialogue with you on any questions they have about their bodies or sexuality.

The most compelling reason for teaching kids the proper names for their body parts, age-appropriately, is to protect them. If a stranger, family friend, or family member is sexually abusing them, then it can empower your child to tell you. They’ll be able to tell you exactly what happened & what parts of their body, or another person’s body, were involved.

My experience finds that predators prey on kids that use pet names more than the real things. Predators will back away from kids who are open & direct about what makes them uncomfortable.

In the event of abuse, correct terminology helps kids & adults navigate the disclosure and forensic interview process. It’s also true, using incorrect terminology can cause cases of child sexual abuse not to hold up in court. Vagina covers the vulva and clitoris in a police investigation. You can teach the different parts of the vagina if you wish, of course age appropriately but vagina is good enough. Don’t over complicate things.

If we use different names, it also sends a couple of messages. One, it sends a message that it’s something kids can’t talk about & it’s shameful. If they are being sexually abused that they need to tell somebody about, I think one of the best things we can do is make sure they have words to tell about that abuse.

If you combine teaching them the proper names with regular talks about body boundaries, then you will go a long way in protecting your kids from sexual abuse.

Kids who can properly name their private parts are at a lower risk of being abused, are better equipped to report suspicious behavior, & are able to communicate more effectively if they are victims of abuse.

The above is based on my experience & my knowledge dealing with both survivors of sexual abuse & predators.

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